By Connie Shannon
Dysthymia is more than "feeling blue". People who have dysthymia are more than just pessimistic. They have a gloomy outlook, and can rarely remember the last time they were happy or inspired about something. It is difficult to have fun, and self-criticism often involves a persistent sense of failure and low self esteem. Many become comfortable, taking on the gloom as an identity. "I am not worthy of happiness so why bother".
Women are 3 times more likely than men, more African-Americans than Caucasians and many older people suffer from Dysthymia. It is estimated over 1 million Americans will suffer from Dysthymia at some point in their lifetimes. The condition can remain undiagnosed, or underdiagnosed as "general depressive order".
One of the biggest triggers of Dysthymia: stress. Imagine how many people have been triggered during the pandemic! They already feel "invisible" so if at home, what is the difference between going out or staying in: "I wouldn't be noticed anyway". Now might be a good time to ask yourself: is this more than "the blues"? "Am I really a Debbie Downer? Maybe there is something bigger going on".
Self-diagnosis is always alluring, however input from a trained professional will guide you through the "the greys" and onto a path that is right for you. Create a support system with those closest to you: tell them how you feel, and open up a dialogue that will give others comfort in understanding you better. Remember: your friends and family love you and value you for who you are, even if you can't love yourself right now.
There are three things you can do while you seek professional help:
Recall a time in the past where you were happy, no matter how fleeting, try to hold on and "anchor" to that memory. Even if you weren't fully "present" you were happy. And you deserve happiness.
Get physical: that may be hard if the weight of the world is on your shoulders but even a 10 minute walk will release endorphins, the mind's natural feel good chemicals. Sit on a bench, take in fresh air, engage with nature and feel yourself being present for you.
Focus on yourself and others: by treating yourself with the same kindness you would treat others, you find self worth. Try volunteering where you are valued as a team member and know that kindness can extend to you as well. You don't have to be a cheerleader, just show up and do the best you can right then.
Contact us at info@thepositivemindcenter.com for guidance on finding help out of the grays, into the blues, reds, greens and yellows.